What is a large family? It’s hard to say, because everyone views motherhood or fatherhood differently. For some people, having just one child is fine because that’s what fits their lifestyle. For others, however, having eight children isn’t any more complicated than having just one. It’s a personal choice. That said, I’m writing this with large families in mind—those that have more children than the norm established by society in all-inclusive packages.
When you have several children, people start talking. We all know that when you see a family with four or more children, it’s harder to go unnoticed at the store, and people feel free to make comments like, “When are you going to stop?” or “Are you living off child benefits?” It’s annoying and upsetting.
When you're pregnant, whether it's your first or your sixthe Pregnancy—we’re still just as happy and want to share our joy with the whole world. Parents with large families will tell you: love isn’t divided—it multiplies. Hearing people say, “Not again!!” or that classic line when we have only one child of a certain gender—“Are you going to keep trying until you have a boy/girl?”—doesn’t help and makes us almost uncomfortable about sharing our happiness with others, which can isolate some moms.
To be honest, I’m used to hearing comments like, “Are they all yours?” Now I reply sarcastically, “No, I stole one from the store.” I can also tell you that no, I don’t live solely on government benefits. We make choices; I work, just like my partner does.
Some people see it as a mountain to climb. I won’t lie to you—it’s not always harmonious at home. But the moments of happiness that each of us gets out of it—that’s what really matters. Ask the kids, and not a single one will tell you they’d trade their brother or sister. That’s what a family is all about.
So, the next time you see a large family, think about all of this and give them a wink, because a large family isn't all that different—it's just a family with lots and lots of love.